In loco parentis is Latin for in place of the parent. I have found that you can take words and use them as metaphors for much higher understanding. In this case, I use in loco parentis for our own human parenting of our ego in place of any authority figure (parent) doing it for us.
What I have discovered about allowing one’s ego to run amok is that it will usually act like a bull in a china shop like a little child crying and thrashing in a tantrum for what it wants. We are seeing this acting out on our world stage as I write this on every level of society.
We usually see ego acting out from a place of fear of its destruction. It will attack at all costs. Its survival is paramount to itself at the cost of any other. This is the very reason is must be parented, that is, controlled, reassured, calmed down in the face of its claim that it is being banished when all that is happening is that the human psyche is achieving spiritual growth, maturing, changing, getting more adult-like, moving on, etc.
So, how do we as humans parent our ego and act out in loco parentis for ourselves?
In my experience it starts with a desire to understand the difference between the ego and the soul. If you don’t understand the differences in their languages, you can’t distinguish between what is motivating you: ego or soul.
From my work on myself, the ego desires tho express itself to approve, control and judge. The soul expresses to love, learn and mature.
These are the basic voices of the ego and the soul. When you hear the voices of these realities, it is encumbent upon you to hear them out and then decide if you are going to give reign to your childish ego or your maturing soul. You are the parent and you are the one guiding your ego and your soul. In loco parentis. YOU step in as your own parent and you create a more mature human being. A human being in control of your persona/psyche/ego. In that you will reap the benefits of inner peace.