If you are at the point in your conscious evolution where you talk to the Universe (God, the Cosmos, the Creative Source Infinite Intelligence, the All There Is), you will know that in order to get "answers" from the Universe, to draw down manifestation, it is more effective not to ask the Universe a question using a " why not." It is much more effective to use a statement with a thanks before it as in, "thank you that I am more forgiving of myself and others.."
Why is this so? From my experience with the Universe, I have found that it operates both within us and outside of us resting in infinite potential. When we make a statement of intent that is positive to the Universe as in "I am more forgiving of myself and others," it attunes and aligns your energy of that intent with that which is like it in the Universe. Like attracts like.
When you use negative statements with the Universe, you signal to it that you are lacking and it gives you more of that.
To manifest your intent with the help of the Universe, your conscious, subconscious and superconscious minds must be in alignment.
If you really don't believe that you can have what you are intending, why should the Universe believe you?
Be real with yourself and be real with the Universe by continuing to affirm your intent until YOU believe it! Once you believe it, it will manifest!