I have experienced and have come to understand that loving myself has led to my being happy! But why do many NOT love themselves since it is the key to moving forward on the Wisdom Path and allowing ever expanding awareness and happiness?
I came upon an article in the Buddhist magazine, Shambhala Sun entitled, "The Buddha's Love" in an overall piece on " How to be a Bodhisattva." I would like to share a small section in which the Vietnamese monk, Thich Nhat Hanh asks, "why don't we love ourselves?"
"We may have a habit within ourselves of looking for happiness elsewhere than in the here and now. We may lack the capacity to realize that happiness is possible in the here and now, that we already have enough conditions to be happy right now. To go home to the present moment, to take care of oneself, to get in touch with the wonders of life that are really available-that is already love. Love is to be kind to yourself, to be compassionate to yourself, to generate images of joy, and to look at everyone with eyes of equanimity and nondiscrimination."
Our culture conditions us to believe that we will be happy when... It also conditions us that we must complete ourselves with another's love. These thought constructs are not viable for happiness is within and you are already love.
The Wisdom Path teaches us to develop the self-worth to be happiness and love!!!